Me and this girl were in a few of the same classes at college. We talked some during this time. She then moved in with her brother an hour and a half away and took some time off college. I transferred to a nearby University. We became Facebook friends and really started to talk a lot. After a year or two, she went to a University that is 3 hours away and got an apartment there.

For the past 3 years we have talked a ton on Facebook and I have liked her since then. She still visits the town her brother is in which is a 2 hour drive for her and only an hour and a half for me. I hinted subtly about the distance in casual conversation and she said it was a bit of distance and she hasn't been home to visit her parents since the semester started. I have been in a long distance relationship and was fine with it. I really like this girl and am so frustrated because there is a chance of there being something more if it wasn't for the distance thing.

She has no clue that I like her. I have struggled for 3 years now on whether I should tell her or not. Not saying anything and living with the "what if" is probably harder than having a long distance relationship. But I also don't want to ruin what I do have with her. I want tell her I like her but that I understand there is a distance but just wanted her to know and I still want to be friends and talk. If I tell her, there will no longer be that "what if", but the worst case scenario is that she quits talking to me. What should I do? Love with the "what if"? Or risk the friendship and tell her? i know if I tell her there will be an awkward moment, but if she quits talking to me, then maybe we weren't as good of friends as I thought we were.

I did it, but didn't get a response. I had to send it as a Facebook message. She got on and comment on a status update I did, but I didn't get a response to the PM.

She replied last night. She apologized for it taking so long. She said it did catch her really off guard and all. That she doesn't know what to say. She never really thought about it. She said it wouldn't make things awkward between us. Said she was still processing it.

So basically, I think it just shocked her so bad, she still hasn't registered the fact that I said I like her.

I then responded telling her to take all the time she needs, that I'm still shocked I did it. And that we don't have to immediately start dating or anything. I just wanted her to know I like her and we can see where it goes from there.

the seed is planted, hopefully something will come from it.

The next part can be awkward , like do you leave her a lone for a bit.    do you contact her after a while.  Perhaps there would be some normal interaction face to face or something in the future!


Personally I'd like to think if she was interested she would let you know in some way.  It was def a good sign that she responded though!

let us know what happens!