So I just went on a first date last night with a girl. We are both college students and she's Chinese and is from Taiwan. She was really quiet, but towards of the end of the date she started opening up. The cultural differences are hard at first along with the fact that I'm a 6'5" white American guy and she's a 5'4" Chinese girl (she's fluent in English by the way).

I feel like we really hit it off though. She wanted our first date to be kind of personal. We went to the store, bought some food, and then went back to a kitchen and cooked dinner for each other. Then we went to a haunted house (lame) that didn't last that long so we ended up seeing Paranormal Activity and I got to protect her

We held hands through parts of the date but basically the entire date lasted about 5 1/2 hours. I ended up dropping her back at her apartment but there was no parking so I just told her that I had a great time and she smiled, said goodnight, and left.

Like I said, she's really shy and all, but she kept on making suggestions like, "We will end up taking pictures next time" and, "You should keep learning to cook so you can keep making me meals." So it seems like she has intentions of continuing to date.

So what do I do now? I want to call her and tell her that I really enjoyed the date, but do I make plans for next week? What else should I do? Do you guys think she may like me?

Oh P.S. she lives with her Mom in an apartment off campus for the first year. There are a lot of things I have to put up with (other than the fact that she still lives with her mom), but I really like this girl. We went to each others classes all day Friday and hung out and stuff like that but I still can't figure out if she's interested in me or not.

Thanks Everyone!

I know what you're saying. That is my mistake. It's just that when it comes to playing games, she's really starting to get into my head. Honestly, she's literally mind****ing me. So I called her up last night, and told her I had a great time. She acted so uninterested in anything I had to say. I told her that I hope her Mom wasn't too mad and she just gave me a one-word "no". Then I suggested that we should go out again this week and she said, "Yeah, I don't know, I'll have to see what else I'm doing this week." In a really flat dull tone (as if she rather be doing something else). I try to to all these nice things for her and I don't get any recognition. She's sooo quiet and reserved and it's like she doesn't care, but at other times she smiles and wants to talk to me. I'm getting so many mixed signals. That's what I mean by "putting up" with all of this. These mind games, mixed signals, etc. It's driving me nuts and I'm getting depressed. All I'm trying to do is be nice and she doesn't give a s***.

Like I said, I'm not just trying to be nice to impress her; that's just the way I am. I'll never be some cocky a-hole that treats women like garbage a little bit just so they'll seem interested or whatever the hell. I hate that idea. I won't change who I am and treat women with anything less than complete respect. So, I apologize that I came off as a jerk by saying I had to "put up with all of this", but it's true. If you want to talk about mind games, and bulls***, welcome to my world. I am going crazy.

sounds like she likes you and the ball is in your court, just talk to her

let us know how it goes!

2nd that


Why are you looking for recognition if you're not trying to impress her?
Think about it.


Just go for what you want mate. You dont have to be a cocky bastard, just be assertive and indifferent ie. Not care how she reacts to what you do or say.