ok  i have a problem that wont leave me i cant forget about her it bothers me so much and i dont want to be a pain to her but it turned out to be that way and this whole thing is so twisted so if you have ever had problems ware a girl has taken every thing the wrong way please post your storys and suggestions on how i can fix my own and your problems with girls or a girl i only want things right again.

so my story goes like this this girl call her A. she once had a crush on me and i had one on her it lasted for a long time because she never came out to me and i was afraid to say any thing to her well last year freshmen year i started to talk to her and hang out for once well i also got in with a bad crowd and i thought maybe a bit of weed and alcohol will help me be more talkative with her but i learned it only made every thing worse and now i have been pretty shur she hates me and thinks im creepy only after i had got upset because the guy she was going out with i new very well and i think he new i liked her and i knew his intention s he once was like a brother to me well i try ed to warn her about him and when i got to angry at him i tryed to calm it and make me happy again with alcohol and weed. it made it worse i lost control of my emotions and showed up at her house drunk at 11 wanting to warn her of her boy friend call him L . who was saying bad thing s about her and to say sorry for being so annoying when they were together because i didn't trust him and saw how he treated his ex s. well she took it as creepy  especially after calling her while drunk and stoned losing my emotions and i couldn't get rid of the depression. well about 5 months later after trying and almost being able to forget about her i get a call from her on the day of my birth day seconds after blowing out the candles and she had crossed my mind at that moment and i didnt pick up because  i didn't want to be rude and it shocked me! what were the odds of that happening? well on the way home i get a text from a good friend i trust saying she told him she had a secret crush on me. but how she had to hate me for what i had done did he mean once had a crush? i could believe that but still? and than the next day after talking to a friend of hers and mine i told him she just hates me and he said ( no she doesn't hate you she loves you but with an exception) WHAT DOES THAT MEAN! she acts like she hates me what is going on i need to know what to do? should i talk to her what if i make it worse ? what if she wont listen? can i say it straight its so hard to say to her!

I would definitely clean up.  Mind altering substances are not the answer.  Stop doing them and talk to her straight.  Perhaps pass it off as an experimental phase or that you thought it would help or something.  But show remorse.   It sounds like the girl might be into you but probably has issues w/ how you handled things.

I'd try to move on and salvage what you can with this girl.

I wish you luck and please let us know how it turns out!

and she doesn't understand why i handled things the way i did she wont litin to me! so yes i think the best way is to say it as straight as possible

the problem is she wont talk to me at all its more like she now run s away from me because basically L told every one so much STUFF that every one she is around just thinks im the biggest pot head in school but really i haven't don it much at all just a few at bad times im afraid of doing it again and than he has to make more STUFF up and ppl in my school don't give it a second thought if its true or not so yes there are so many rumor's going around about me that i just want to move to a new school now and he did the same thing to my other friend and so he left. he,s the most selfish person i know and makes his mom do every thing for him and shes so nice to us and she just does it.

my x wants to talk to her we are just friends now but will it do worse because its my x?