I met this girl a few months ago. We'd been hanging out as part of a group for a while, then recently started just hanging out together and texting each other basically all day.
After a few weeks of this, I asked if she wanted to be more than friends, and she did. We went on two dates after that. After the first one, she went on about how much fun she had and how she couldn't wait to see me again. She seemed really excited about me in general ("I had so much fun last night" etc.). But, after the second one, I asked her if she had fun, but she just said she was "struggling with the more than friends thing".
I tried to give her some time to think, but I couldn't help it and started asking questions. The only reason she would give is that she "thought she liked me that way, but now she doesn't think she does". When I asked her what caused her to change her mind, she said "You're cute, interesting, nice, and funny, so I don't really know why I don't like you in that way."
So, I was just wondering if anyone could give me some insight into what could possibly be going through her mind. I don't understand how she can list a bunch of reasons to like me, but then say that she doesn't.
I'm just so confused, and I feel like there must be something she isn't telling me. It's like she instantly went from being all excited to "feeling awkward".
Most importantly, I'm wondering if there's any hope...
Thanks!
She sounds shady, it could be virtually anything, it could be something you said, how you did something, there could be another guy, she could be afraid to say why she doesn't like you that way, etc.
Either way she doesn't like you that way, if it was me I would move on from this situation. There are plenty of other women out there to be had my friend. Be glad that you found out earlier than later. If she isn't into you, you really cannot force it.
Women can be weird and impossible to fully understand. I'd say to talk to her, but it seems like you already had the important talk. Sorry, this is just my opinion. I'd move on.
